Life Other women. - Page 9

Micjones · 01-09-2012, 11:29 AM

I had a discussion last night with my girlfriend about a relationship dilemma one of her closest friends is faced with. These kinds of conversations often serve as firestarters. If a man is too candid he can often represent an opinion that will be superimposed onto his own relationship.

So the two of us were talking about the process of a man "settling down".

I told her about a song I'd been listening to that gives the male perspective of this process. A skit preceded the song. In that skit a man lays out his account of how men always wrestle with the urge to sleep with other women. It was an "inside" conversation. The language was brash, but it was something most men could identify and stand in agreement with. Needless to say, she was repulsed by the idea that men are often desirous of other women. So now I'm in an odd position of having to answer to her about my own desires. I think women have these heart-warming ideas that a man who has committed himself to her no longer has an eye for other women. I think that's patently false.

Gents when you settled down to a monogamous relationship...
Was that a by-product of having sewn your oats or are you simply managing the urge to sleep with other women?

In taking to older male friends I've been told time and time again that the desire to be with other women never goes away...you just manage it for fidelity's sake.

True or false?

DJJasonp · 01-09-2012, 08:53 PM

This:

GloryDayz · 01-09-2012, 09:15 PM

I'd say that she needs to be told (to tell her friend) that if the woman wants to keep the man's desire to stay monogamous, it's up to her to be better than all those other women. We're cool, we get "that week", but too much of a non-thing just kills the desire to NOT spread your seed. Or just get some! So, repulsed or not, the better stay on top of things, or "he" (you) will get on top of other things...

angelo · 01-09-2012, 10:56 PM

My wife and I are very honest with each other.

One day she asked me if I ever wanted to have sex with another woman.
I looked her dead in the eye and said yes every day.

She was a bit shocked and I explained that I decided to marry her when I was sure I would never act on that impulse. That I had to much respect for her and loved her more than she would ever know.

She has never asked again.

Ang

**Dave Lane** · 01-09-2012, 11:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Micjones

I concur. This is what I tried to explain, but the idea that the desire is ever even there sent her over the edge.

Dump her. Way too insecure.

Pitt Gorilla · 01-09-2012, 11:05 PM

As long as there are hot chicks, we're going to dig them.

L.A. Chieffan · 01-09-2012, 11:08 PM

Chicks **** around as much as guys, they just like to act all innocent

wutamess · 01-09-2012, 11:08 PM

I Like Turtles!

wutamess · 01-09-2012, 11:22 PM

You're one of those people that don't HEAR comedy... you just listen to it...
Right at the 59s mark... HEAR C. ROCK!

Anyone know how to embed at the 59 s mark?

http://youtu.be/vnZLcx6hIaE?t=59s

Blueflame · 01-10-2012, 03:47 AM

In general... a man who is still breathing (regardless of age or committed-ness) is most likely going to look when a nice butt or rack walks by. This doesn't necessarily mean he wants to... or would... cheat. But window-shopping should be ok even if one has no intention of buying. Right?

Inspector · 01-10-2012, 06:42 AM

I feel as though I have an obligation to share my wealth of knowledge about this subjuct with younger guys based on the fact I've lived for awhile and have so much life experience in which to draw upon.

I just wish I could remember any of it.

InChiefsHeaven · 01-10-2012, 07:44 AM

You are not an animal, you have control over your urges. But that doesn't make the urges go away.

I always explain it like this...I could be in love with probably a million people in the world, but I CHOSE my wife. That's because love is a choice not a feeling. Lust is a feeling. You have to control your feelings...otherwise we're just animals.

**Predarat** · 01-10-2012, 07:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by L.A.Chieffan

Chicks **** around as much as guys, they just like to act all innocent

That is damn true.

trndobrd · 01-10-2012, 10:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by angelo

My wife and I are very honest with each other.

One day she asked me if I ever wanted to have sex with another woman.
I looked her dead in the eye and said yes every day.

She was a bit shocked and I explained that I decided to marry her when I was sure I would never act on that impulse. That I had to much respect for her and loved her more than she would ever know.

She has never asked again.

Ang

Still, it's best not to use her best friend as a 'for instance'.

**Lumpy** · 01-10-2012, 11:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by luv

So it's the woman's responsibility to make sure her man doesn't cheat. Interesting.

I find it interesting too.

However, a relationship is a 2-way street. What happens when a wife/gf's needs aren't being met? Let's say there's a lack of emotion/communication in the relationship yet there's plenty of sex. Do men ever worry that their wife/gf will seek out someone to help fill that void?

I don't mean to sound like a "typical chick" with my post, but think about it, gentlemen... a relationship without communication is like a relationship without sex. Plain and simple.

patteeu · 01-11-2012, 06:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lumpy

I find it interesting too.

However, a relationship is a 2-way street. What happens when a wife/gf's needs aren't being met? Let's say there's a lack of emotion/communication in the relationship yet there's plenty of sex. Do men ever worry that their wife/gf will seek out someone to help fill that void?

I don't mean to sound like a "typical chick" with my post, but think about it, gentlemen... a relationship without communication is like a relationship without sex. Plain and simple.

Go ahead and talk or cry with another man if you need to.

01-09-2012, 11:29 AM
Micjones Whose house? Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: KCMO Casino cash: $10005180	Other women. I had a discussion last night with my girlfriend about a relationship dilemma one of her closest friends is faced with. These kinds of conversations often serve as firestarters. If a man is too candid he can often represent an opinion that will be superimposed onto his own relationship. So the two of us were talking about the process of a man "settling down". I told her about a song I'd been listening to that gives the male perspective of this process. A skit preceded the song. In that skit a man lays out his account of how men always wrestle with the urge to sleep with other women. It was an "inside" conversation. The language was brash, but it was something most men could identify and stand in agreement with. Needless to say, she was repulsed by the idea that men are often desirous of other women. So now I'm in an odd position of having to answer to her about my own desires. I think women have these heart-warming ideas that a man who has committed himself to her no longer has an eye for other women. I think that's patently false. Gents when you settled down to a monogamous relationship... Was that a by-product of having sewn your oats or are you simply managing the urge to sleep with other women? In taking to older male friends I've been told time and time again that the desire to be with other women never goes away...you just manage it for fidelity's sake. True or false?
Posts: 15,344

01-09-2012, 08:53 PM	#121
DJJasonp My work speaks for itself!!! Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: So Cal Casino cash: $-1704800	This: Attached Thumbnails __________________ Its easier to fool a man, than to convince a man he's been fooled.
Posts: 13,900

01-09-2012, 09:15 PM	#122
GloryDayz (Sir/Yes Sir/Aye Aye Sir) Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Diving Casino cash: $895380	I'd say that she needs to be told (to tell her friend) that if the woman wants to keep the man's desire to stay monogamous, it's up to her to be better than all those other women. We're cool, we get "that week", but too much of a non-thing just kills the desire to NOT spread your seed. Or just get some! So, repulsed or not, the better stay on top of things, or "he" (you) will get on top of other things... __________________ . #Like 45, 47 Is Going To Be AWESOME! #I still don't have COVID #I'mImmuneToVirtueSignaling
Posts: 123,206

01-09-2012, 10:56 PM	#123
angelo Starter Join Date: Oct 2007 Casino cash: $9094965	My wife and I are very honest with each other. One day she asked me if I ever wanted to have sex with another woman. I looked her dead in the eye and said yes every day. She was a bit shocked and I explained that I decided to marry her when I was sure I would never act on that impulse. That I had to much respect for her and loved her more than she would ever know. She has never asked again. Ang
Posts: 775

01-09-2012, 11:05 PM	#125
Pitt Gorilla Banned! Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: NOT Columbia, MO 65201 Casino cash: $20194	As long as there are hot chicks, we're going to dig them. __________________ Your son is a bench warmer because of your weak genetics not because of the coach Norlin Mommsen is disgusting.
Posts: 47,337

01-09-2012, 11:08 PM	#126
L.A. Chieffan PLAY GOOD FOOTBALL Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: American Gardens Building Casino cash: $2718654	Chicks **** around as much as guys, they just like to act all innocent
Posts: 17,400

01-09-2012, 11:08 PM	#127
wutamess MVP Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Lee's Summit Casino cash: $4711637	I Like Turtles!
Posts: 8,290

01-09-2012, 11:22 PM	#128
wutamess MVP Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Lee's Summit Casino cash: $4711637	You're one of those people that don't HEAR comedy... you just listen to it... Right at the 59s mark... HEAR C. ROCK! Anyone know how to embed at the 59 s mark? http://youtu.be/vnZLcx6hIaE?t=59s Last edited by wutamess; 01-09-2012 at 11:33 PM..
Posts: 8,290

01-10-2012, 03:47 AM	#129
Blueflame Starter Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Washington state Casino cash: $10004900	In general... a man who is still breathing (regardless of age or committed-ness) is most likely going to look when a nice butt or rack walks by. This doesn't necessarily mean he wants to... or would... cheat. But window-shopping should be ok even if one has no intention of buying. Right? __________________
Posts: 48

01-10-2012, 06:42 AM	#130
Inspector MVP Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: K.C. Casino cash: $9914975	I feel as though I have an obligation to share my wealth of knowledge about this subjuct with younger guys based on the fact I've lived for awhile and have so much life experience in which to draw upon. I just wish I could remember any of it. __________________ As always, this is IMO.
Posts: 7,917

01-10-2012, 07:44 AM	#131
InChiefsHeaven Rockin' yer FACE OFF! Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Omaha, Nebraska Casino cash: $755437	You are not an animal, you have control over your urges. But that doesn't make the urges go away. I always explain it like this...I could be in love with probably a million people in the world, but I CHOSE my wife. That's because love is a choice not a feeling. Lust is a feeling. You have to control your feelings...otherwise we're just animals. __________________ We have a million reasons for failure, but not one excuse... Die Donks, DIE!! Holy Crap fellas!!! We did it!!! THREE TIMES!!!
Posts: 27,187