Life Parental advice needed

Mr. Plow · 05-04-2010, 11:41 AM

As some of you know, I've got 4 kids - 3 boys (11, 5, 4) & 1 girl (2). My wife & I have recently discovered that our 11 year old is starting puberty. Voice is changing, mood swings, hair under his arms, etc.

Being the great father I am, I hoped it would just go away and he would revert back to the cute, loving 4 year old that I remember - but alas, it isn't working no matter how much I try to ignore it.

We have noticed that he has taken an interest in the fairer sex as of late, but we have also discovered that he has taken an interest in....uhhhhh....ahem....internet porn.

My wife asked me if I looked at porn when I was his age, and I honestly don't remember if I did. But, as I told her, if I did look at porn, I certainly didn't have the readily access to it that he does in this age of computers, iPods, laptops, etc. I told her that if I wanted to look at porn, I had to look at magazines - which, in hindsight, really sucks compared to what options are available now.

So, now I get to have "the talk" with him. I get to try to explain to him what I actually know about women, which is very little, and what he and his body are going through. I also get to try to explain what is going on in the video's & pictures he has seen and how women should be respected & treated.

I never really had "the talk" with my dad, so I'm looking for a little guidance from those of you that have been through this with a child.

**bevischief** · 05-04-2010, 11:43 AM

This should be interesting...

Mr. Plow · 05-04-2010, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by bevischief

This should be interesting...

I fully expect this to go badly....but, I'm hoping to find a few good tidbits of info in there somewhere.

MOhillbilly · 05-04-2010, 11:45 AM

i told my cousin when he was about 11 that if he got hair in other places there was something wrong with him.

Mr. Plow · 05-04-2010, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by MOhillbilly

i told my cousin when he was about 11 that if he got hair in other places there was something wrong with him.

seclark · 05-04-2010, 11:48 AM

tell him not to use that self tanning lotion to jerk off with. my son woke up one morning, thinking his dick was rotting off.
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**bevischief** · 05-04-2010, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by seclark

tell him not to use that self tanning lotion to jerk off with. my son woke up one morning, thinking his dick was rotting off.
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**BigMeatballDave** · 05-04-2010, 06:42 PM

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Originally Posted by seclark

tell him not to use that self tanning lotion to jerk off with. my son woke up one morning, thinking his dick was rotting off.
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Pants · 05-04-2010, 11:49 AM

Man, if there was a way to somehow filter all the nasty shit out and just leave the pretty naked ladies posing, it would be nice. I don't have an 11 year old, but I think I would be OK with him checking nude girls out. I would not want him to get desensitized to all that sick shit until he was at least 15-16. This is tough, Hawk.

Pablo · 05-04-2010, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Metrolike

Man, if there was a way to somehow filter all the nasty shit out and just leave the pretty naked ladies posing, it would be nice. I don't have an 11 year old, but I think I would be OK with him checking nude girls out. I would not want him to get desensitized to all that sick shit until he was at least 15-16. This is tough, Hawk.

Yeah, he'll be looking up Brazilian fart porn by the time he's 13.

I had to jerk off to dial-up. Kids don't know how lucky they are these days.

Mr. Plow · 05-04-2010, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by PostRockPablo

Yeah, he'll be looking up Brazilian fart porn by the time he's 13.

I had to jerk off to dial-up. Kids don't know how lucky they are these days.

Holy shit. Everyone in the office just looked at me laughing. Rep.

Pants · 05-04-2010, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by PostRockPablo

Yeah, he'll be looking up Brazilian fart porn by the time he's 13.

I had to jerk off to dial-up. Kids don't know how lucky they are these days.

Yeap.

allen_kcCard · 05-04-2010, 11:43 AM

My son is 8....I'll be taking notes.

CaliforniaChief · 05-04-2010, 11:46 AM

I would just be direct and honest, including how uncomfortable you are in talking about it in large part because your dad never shared with you. Ask him what he knows and what he doesn't know, and tell him that you just want him to feel comfortable asking you whatever he wants.

I think trying to act like it's no big deal won't work. He'll see through it and see what you're doing as a necessary evil.

soopamanluva · 05-04-2010, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by CaliforniaChief

I would just be direct and honest, including how uncomfortable you are in talking about it in large part because your dad never shared with you. Ask him what he knows and what he doesn't know, and tell him that you just want him to feel comfortable asking you whatever he wants.

I think trying to act like it's no big deal won't work. He'll see through it and see what you're doing as a necessary evil.

Yea, just talk to him, you dont want him coming home with his little 12 year old girlfriend saying she pregnant. Let him know that his life now gets harder because he has to deal with women

05-04-2010, 11:41 AM	Topic Starter
Mr. Plow In Search of a Life Join Date: Dec 2005 Casino cash: $-1562609	Parental advice needed As some of you know, I've got 4 kids - 3 boys (11, 5, 4) & 1 girl (2). My wife & I have recently discovered that our 11 year old is starting puberty. Voice is changing, mood swings, hair under his arms, etc. Being the great father I am, I hoped it would just go away and he would revert back to the cute, loving 4 year old that I remember - but alas, it isn't working no matter how much I try to ignore it. We have noticed that he has taken an interest in the fairer sex as of late, but we have also discovered that he has taken an interest in....uhhhhh....ahem....internet porn. My wife asked me if I looked at porn when I was his age, and I honestly don't remember if I did. But, as I told her, if I did look at porn, I certainly didn't have the readily access to it that he does in this age of computers, iPods, laptops, etc. I told her that if I wanted to look at porn, I had to look at magazines - which, in hindsight, really sucks compared to what options are available now. So, now I get to have "the talk" with him. I get to try to explain to him what I actually know about women, which is very little, and what he and his body are going through. I also get to try to explain what is going on in the video's & pictures he has seen and how women should be respected & treated. I never really had "the talk" with my dad, so I'm looking for a little guidance from those of you that have been through this with a child.
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05-04-2010, 11:43 AM	#2
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Pants Time Keeps On Slipping Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Overland Park Casino cash: $3499900	Man, if there was a way to somehow filter all the nasty shit out and just leave the pretty naked ladies posing, it would be nice. I don't have an 11 year old, but I think I would be OK with him checking nude girls out. I would not want him to get desensitized to all that sick shit until he was at least 15-16. This is tough, Hawk. __________________ "Turn the channel to 26!"
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allen_kcCard Veteran Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Kansas City Casino cash: $2123183	My son is 8....I'll be taking notes.
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05-04-2010, 11:46 AM	#14
CaliforniaChief #RIPAce Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: So Cal Casino cash: $10485899	I would just be direct and honest, including how uncomfortable you are in talking about it in large part because your dad never shared with you. Ask him what he knows and what he doesn't know, and tell him that you just want him to feel comfortable asking you whatever he wants. I think trying to act like it's no big deal won't work. He'll see through it and see what you're doing as a necessary evil.
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