Do you ever feel like a disappointment?

[|Zach|]

Originally Posted by Rain Man

They believe that I should live in their town, doing an old-economy job that they understand and relate to. I would also be unmarried so I could spend all my time serving them, and I would have their exact hobbies and no other.

This is not speculation.

Wild to think that people labor under the idea they can craft the destiny of their child so rigidly.

[Rain Man]

Originally Posted by |Zach|

Wild to think that people labor under the idea they can craft the destiny of their child so rigidly.

It took me a long time to figure them out. I don't think they're evil or overly controlling. I think the issue is that they merely have a very narrow view of the world, and have a masssive aversion to trying anything new. In their world, it's a bad idea to ever try anything that's unfamiliar to them, and my whole life is unfamilar to them.

Of course, it doesn't help that I grew up with eight cousins and I'm the only one who lives outside Missouri. So that makes my life path even more of an outlier, which in their minds solidifies their skepticism about me. I've flat-out been told that they're disappointed in how I turned out.

But it's really kind of ridiculous. My most telling story is that I got my undergraduate degree in aerospace engineering, and as I was interviewing for jobs, my mother argued that I should stay in town and get a minimum-wage job at the local lumberyard.

In light of the lumberyard story and some other really bad events, I eventually figured out that my parents consistently acted against my best interests for their own reasons, so I had to learn to ignore them. This isn't well received by them and causes friction.

Thanks for the therapy session.

[Jewish Rabbi]

Originally Posted by Rain Man

They believe that I should live in their town, doing an old-economy job that they understand and relate to. I would also be unmarried so I could spend all my time serving them, and I would have their exact hobbies and no other.

This is not speculation.

I bet they were pissed you drove a German car, especially an apricot one.

[lewdog]

Are the people around you perfect? Are they without faults?

If you're feeling this from a significant other, remember you can only be conscious of your actions, not the thoughts of others. If you feel you're doing right, the judgement of others is simply their feelings, not a result of your own failure.

[Rain Man]

Originally Posted by George Brett Statue

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I've been having this nagging feeling that I'm not good enough for the people around me. It's not a fun feeling.

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As a bit of unsolicited advice, one thing that has been pivotal in my life is to always surround myself with people who are more highly evolved or further advanced than I am. It's like real estate - you always want to buy the most beat-up home in the neighborhood and not the nicest one. I've always been the most dilapidated guy in my friends group, and it helps elevate my game.

That's never been an intentional strategy. I've just always been drawn to people who have their act together.

[Wilson8]

Dear George Brett Statue,

You could be one of the statues that they have taken down lately and hidden in some warehouse. You will know people are ashamed when they remove you from your pedestal.

Even when they move the ballpark downtown, they will still take you with them.

You have to go through life being the best damn person or statue that you can be.

I think you are kind of cool and would like to take my picture beside you.

[TimeForWasp]

That’s why I always keep a spare gallon of 50-50 Preston antifreeze on the shelf. I don’t really care for full flavor.

[Vladimir_Kyrilytch]

The only people that could honestly answer "no, I've never felt like a disappointment" are this new younger generation, the participation trophy generation. Nothing they've ever done has ever been wrong, in fact it is amazing and to be celebrated. They are the ones that can't have a discussion without screaming and yelling. They are the ones leading cancel culture. They are big on punishing not just the son for the sin of the father, but the white for the sin of 200 years ago. Your ancestor fought for the Union to end slavery? Doesn't matter. He profited from it more. They are the ones leading us into this bold new future that I for one don't think is gonna be great at all, nor is it futuristic.

But if George Orwell couldn't warn the masses what the hell chance does old Vladdy Kyrilytch have?

[|Zach|]

Originally Posted by Vladimir_Kyrilytch

The only people that could honestly answer "no, I've never felt like a disappointment" are this new younger generation, the participation trophy generation.

Know how I know you never actually talk to young people? There are a lot of ways to describe Gen Z or younger this is not remotely one of them.

[Vladimir_Kyrilytch]

Originally Posted by |Zach|

Know how I know you never actually talk to young people? There are a lot of ways to describe Gen Z or younger this is not remotely one of them.

Yeah, it usually involves some wack "pronoun" like "they" and "she/they" and "their/them" and yes, there are plant and cat based pronouns, and yes, they'll cancel ya if you don't learn em. Next time you talk to those fine folks, teach them how words work, and then I can talk to them using words. Until then, they'll be mad at my words.

[|Zach|]

Originally Posted by Vladimir_Kyrilytch

Yeah, it usually involves some wack "pronoun" like "they" and "she/they" and "their/them" and yes, there are plant and cat based pronouns, and yes, they'll cancel ya if you don't learn em. Next time you talk to those fine folks, teach them how words work, and then I can talk to them using words. Until then, they'll be mad at my words.

You are full of shit. You are not speaking about real experiences. Nobody who is actually around the younger generation thinks they walk around thinking they are without fault. A group of kids riddled with anxiety who grew up on the internet understanding the full scale of the world as to wonder if they even have a place in it.

[Vladimir_Kyrilytch]

Originally Posted by |Zach|

You are full of shit. You are not speaking about real experiences. Nobody who is actually around the younger generation thinks they walk around thinking they are without fault. A group of kids riddled with anxiety who grew up on the internet understanding the full scale of the world as to wonder if they even have a place in it.

Zach, we're about to both get kicked out in the lounge if we keep this up. Let me just tell you I think you're naive, outright stupid, and fully brainwashed. I don't respect you at all and I judge you on the trash ideas you spit out, like a dirty asshole spits out diarrhea after a meal of improperly cooked food.

We can bring it to DC, mate.

[stumppy]

Originally Posted by Vladimir_Kyrilytch

Yeah, it usually involves some wack "pronoun" like "they" and "she/they" and "their/them" and yes, there are plant and cat based pronouns, and yes, they'll cancel ya if you don't learn em. Next time you talk to those fine folks, teach them how words work, and then I can talk to them using words. Until then, they'll be mad at my words.

Somebody lives in their own made up bubble. Often referred to as Fruitlooptopia.

[TwistedChief]

Yeah. You want an honest answer: I’ve had plenty of success in all facets of life but the second I falter in any category I feel like some level of a failure. I feel like I’ve gotten to where I am because I outwork people, am a perfectionist, and hold myself to the highest of standards. So when I have a year in my career where I feel as if I’ve underperformed my peer group or feel like my personal relationships are suffering, I inevitably feel like a bit of a disappointment.

And it happens and it’s fine but that’s the beauty of life and having grit. You’ll never appreciate the good times as much if you haven’t had those moments of insecurity and feeling like you’ve let others down.

So, yeah, use the fuel of occasionally feeling like a disappointment to motivate better things. As long as you can do that, you’re in good shape.

[RealSNR]

Originally Posted by Vladimir_Kyrilytch

The only people that could honestly answer "no, I've never felt like a disappointment" are this new younger generation, the participation trophy generation. Nothing they've ever done has ever been wrong, in fact it is amazing and to be celebrated. They are the ones that can't have a discussion without screaming and yelling. They are the ones leading cancel culture. They are big on punishing not just the son for the sin of the father, but the white for the sin of 200 years ago. Your ancestor fought for the Union to end slavery? Doesn't matter. He profited from it more. They are the ones leading us into this bold new future that I for one don't think is gonna be great at all, nor is it futuristic.

But if George Orwell couldn't warn the masses what the hell chance does old Vladdy Kyrilytch have?

The guy who says championships don't matter is mocking young people for being the so-called "participation trophy generation"

Oh the irony.