Parenting advice needed: 13 yo female

[wutamess]

Originally Posted by Rams Fan

Take the phone away from her for 2 weeks and have her talk with her mother about how far she's been and her grinding on someone at a dance.

We're very open (prolly too open) so it's not embarrassing for her to have to discuss it. Wifey found out the where/how she's doing things with.

[Rams Fan]

Originally Posted by wutamess

We're very open (prolly too open) so it's not embarrassing for her to have to discuss it. Wifey found out the where/how she's doing things with.

Don't you think it would be a bit awkward for her to have a talk like that with her? You'd make her feel like daddy's little girl(which isn't a bad thing). If I were in your shoes, I'd have your wife talk with her about what she's been doing. If I were you, I'd talk about the discipline.

[wutamess]

Originally Posted by Rams Fan

Don't you think it would be a bit awkward for her to have a talk like that with her? You'd make her feel like daddy's little girl(which isn't a bad thing). If I were in your shoes, I'd have your wife talk with her about what she's been doing. If I were you, I'd talk about the discipline.

What's the discipline? I did have my wife talk to her about it because I have no idea what a 13yo girl is thinking? But I feel the phone is an enabler. That's my only discipline tool.

How do you discipline someone for doing things that are natural?

[Rams Fan]

Originally Posted by wutamess

What's the discipline? I did have my wife talk to her about it because I have no idea what a 13yo girl is thinking? But I feel the phone is an enabler. That's my only discipline tool.

How do you discipline someone for doing things that are natural?

I think it would depend on how much she admits to doing. If I were you, I'd take her phone away for two weeks minimum. Does she have a laptop or computer? Do you know is she used that all to send the pictures?

[wutamess]

Originally Posted by Rams Fan

I think it would depend on how much she admits to doing. If I were you, I'd take her phone away for two weeks minimum. Does she have a laptop or computer? Do you know is she used that all to send the pictures?

Oh, they've been skyping/video chatting. I don't think she did or would send provocative pics but I'll mention that too when we do talk.

[Rams Fan]

Originally Posted by wutamess

Oh, they've been skyping/video chatting. I don't think she did or would send provocative pics but I'll mention that too when we do talk.

I'd take away her laptop for a few weeks, too, depending on what she admits to doing.

[Chief Pote]

I still have nightmares when both of our kids were between the ages of 13 to 15. Wait a minute, it was between 16 to 21...no wait a minute they were between the ages of 21 and 30. Damn it, this parenting thing sure gives you gray hairs.

[notorious]

Just have her lurk here for awhile.


Search "MTG-10", "Hootie", or "GoChiefs" and let her read away.


She will be so horrified by what she reads that she won't even want to get close to the opposite sex for years to come.


Of course, there is always the chance that she might go lesbian if you over-expose her to their threads and posts, so be careful.

[suzzer99]

Originally Posted by wutamess

Oh, they've been skyping/video chatting. I don't think she did or would send provocative pics but I'll mention that too when we do talk.

This this this. That shit gets out on the Internet it can haunt her forever.

As far as the rest theres not a whole lot you can do. Just keep trying to be a good parent, and find positive activities to keep her busy and boost her self-esteem. If that happens the other stuff will take care of itself.

I would advise against letting her know you read her entire conversation. That will just push her away and make her a lot more secretive in the future.