My fathers' rights case

[Fish]

Originally Posted by gochiefs_va

Actually, if I lose she can never come after me for child support...ever. As in my losing they adjudicate the husbands paternity...once that is done even DNA tests cant refute that.

This has never been about money, if it was I wouldnt be fighting like I am.

What if you do win? Have you thought about what you would be able to do at that point?

Say that you did manage to change the antiquated process and actually get a DNA test. Say that test does prove you to be the father. Then what? That revelation wouldn't really guarantee that you'd see your child. All that would ensure is that you would be responsible for child support. And that very well could include back child support starting from when the child was born, along with court costs from the process.

Have you tried working with the mother to form some sort of arrangement outside of the legal system? Is there any possibility of that? If you've already tried, do you think it would be worth it to try again? I'd say that's your best bet at actually being a regular part of the kid's life. Sadly, I don't see much possibility of a change if you go through the legal system. And as someone already pointed out, going through the legal system could potentially make things worse for you.

I commend your effort to be part of your child's life. I'm not trying to talk you out of it or anything.

[Window Licking Whiner]

Originally Posted by KC Fish

What if you do win? Have you thought about what you would be able to do at that point?

Say that you did manage to change the antiquated process and actually get a DNA test. Say that test does prove you to be the father. Then what? That revelation wouldn't really guarantee that you'd see your child. All that would ensure is that you would be responsible for child support. And that very well could include back child support starting from when the child was born, along with court costs from the process.

Have you tried working with the mother to form some sort of arrangement outside of the legal system? Is there any possibility of that? If you've already tried, do you think it would be worth it to try again? I'd say that's your best bet at actually being a regular part of the kid's life. Sadly, I don't see much possibility of a change if you go through the legal system. And as someone already pointed out, going through the legal system could potentially make things worse for you.

I commend your effort to be part of your child's life. I'm not trying to talk you out of it or anything.

Yes as a matter of fact I have tried to work with them, however they have just ignored everything and everytime we try and work it out. There is no other option but through the courts at this point.

As far as what happens then? Well then I am responsible for his support, I've never had a problem with this. But I get to be apart of his life, in whatever small or limited way I can get. And at least my son will know that he has a dad that loves him and wants to be there.