Spinoff: What's the worst thing your In-Law(s) have done to you?

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Originally Posted by MichaelH

The first one is messed up if you knew them. I didn't mind that they wouldn't pay, I was mad that they brought it up 2 weeks before the ceremony. If they had gotten their way, I would have had to convert to that religion and act just like she wants, no way.

Yeah, not knowing the details, I'm certainly in no position to judge anyone involved. It doesn't surprise me that as Catholics they wanted their daughter to get married in the church and raise her kids Catholic. It's a part of their religion and to do otherwise is a rejection of that religion. I don't blame them for not wanting to pay for what amounts to a non-marriage in the eyes of their Church, but of course some ways of dealing with that are better than others. Based on your reaction, I'd say they didn't find the best way.

I'm sure my parents were disappointed that my wife and I weren't married in a Catholic Church, but they attended and wished us well anyway. Years later, when my wife decided to convert to Catholicism and we started going to church again for her and the kids (I'm not really a believer, but I think it's good for the kids to get started that way), we went through a Catholic marriage ceremony and my parents, especially my mother, were happy about it.