Life The Divorce update! - Page 7

burt · 07-07-2009, 08:47 AM

Maybe this is too personal, but I need to vent!

So, being a horn dog and all, I convinced my soon to be ex to "Have one night of no inhibition, all out, major sex" to kiss our marriage good bye. It was to be a great time!

The dirty bitch actually complained the entire time (you don't have to spend so much time on that spot....I have a lower gag reflex because I'm pregnant...you're smashing my boobs....I don't want to do that position, etc.)......and we mostly just did it missionary. She wasn't willing to do any other position. Never have I EVER had a worst time in bed. NEEVER!!! I figure that this is exactly the way I want to kiss our marriage good bye!

Yesterday, I saw the attorney for the first time. It was better than I expected. I can't wait to be divorced. I just have to find the fundage!

Katipan · 07-07-2009, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Simply Red

I'll leave that for the others who've been there, regarding; the constant 'seeing her' also, for the posters who've been through a divi w/ kids involved.

It's both gross and sad.

So you stop focusing on how you feel and focus on how the kids feel.

And wa-la. Poof. Everything is better.

burt · 07-07-2009, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by dirk digler

That is the hardest part. My advice and what I did was make it quick and painless as possible. No chit chat, no how you doing, just get the kids and leave.

Yep...and no phone calls or text!

JOhn · 07-07-2009, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Simply Red

no question, no question, and 'frankly' i'm not certain I can answer that. I'm sure others can, but I never had kids, so, to be fair, that's a VERY different situation. I'll leave that for the others who've been there, regarding; the constant 'seeing her' also, for the posters who've been through a divi w/ kids involved.

Does make it VERY tough. I was always confused, thinking I didn't want to see her for me but the kids needed to. Unfortunately it took me a long time to realize it was me that really wanted to see her. But she made it easier to get over, as I have the kids and they don't fit into her new life. She rarely sees them, 2 times in the past 2-3 months & they haven't spent a night with her in 4 months, all her choice

burt · 07-07-2009, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by MTG#10

Burt, are you guys still living together?

F@CK NO~!!!!

MTG#10 · 07-07-2009, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by dirk digler

That is the hardest part. My advice and what I did was make it quick and painless as possible. No chit chat, no how you doing, just get the kids and leave.

Thats what ive been doing but she always comes up with an excuse to make it last...like a couple days ago i had the kids waiting for her in the driveway. When I seen her car coming I gave them a hug and went in. A minute later she knocks on the door and asks if she can get a couple of her belongings. She then starts trying to talk to me about something and I was forced to look at her. She does something like this every time.

MTG#10 · 07-07-2009, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by burt

F@CK NO~!!!!

So do you have the house? Did she get an apartment?

**dirk digler** · 07-07-2009, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by burt

Yep...and no phone calls or text!

Definitely. Honestly the only reason you need to talk to your ex is if has something to do with the kids. And when you do talk keep it short and simple. One other tip that I learned is tell your ex about your boundaries and what is acceptable and not acceptable to talk about. Basically keep it business like and definitely cold.

Simply Red · 07-07-2009, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Katipan

It's both gross and sad.

So you stop focusing on how you feel and focus on how the kids feel.

And wa-la. Poof. Everything is better.

so like, Katipan, I don't like have any kids, and stuff, uhhhh, huhhh haah

MTG#10 · 07-07-2009, 10:49 AM

Today is our 8 year wedding anniversary...

**dirk digler** · 07-07-2009, 10:51 AM

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Originally Posted by MTG#10

Thats what ive been doing but she always comes up with an excuse to make it last...like a couple days ago i had the kids waiting for her in the driveway. When I seen her car coming I gave them a hug and went in. A minute later she knocks on the door and asks if she can get a couple of her belongings. She then starts trying to talk to me about something and I was forced to look at her. She does something like this every time.

Let her know your boundaries. I know in your situation it may be hard because you guys are going to stay married for a little bit but once you get your apartment it is your place and your rules. It will definitely make it easier because you can just meet her at the door, take the kids and say bye and shut the door.

Garcia Bronco · 07-07-2009, 10:51 AM

Nothing worse than a person that can't control their urges. It's really what seperates us from the rest of the animal kingdom.

JOhn · 07-07-2009, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Garcia Bronco

Nothing worse than a person that can't control their urges. It's really what seperates us from the rest of the animal kingdom.

Guess I really am a PIG

**Buehler445** · 07-07-2009, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by MTG#10

Thats what ive been doing but she always comes up with an excuse to make it last...like a couple days ago i had the kids waiting for her in the driveway. When I seen her car coming I gave them a hug and went in. A minute later she knocks on the door and asks if she can get a couple of her belongings. She then starts trying to talk to me about something and I was forced to look at her. She does something like this every time.

In this case, the answer should have been no. Say you have an appointment to get to or something. Lie to the bitch. It's your house. You don't have to let her in. Tell her to call you later in the week and you'll work on her stuff.

Play the game by your rules.
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**Buehler445** · 07-07-2009, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by MTG#10

Today is our 8 year wedding anniversary...

No it isn't. You're not with her anymore.
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MTG#10 · 07-07-2009, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Buehler445

In this case, the answer should have been no. Say you have an appointment to get to or something. Lie to the bitch. It's your house. You don't have to let her in. Tell her to call you later in the week and you'll work on her stuff.

Play the game by your rules.
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Either way I still have to see her, whether it was then or "later in the week"...

07-07-2009, 08:47 AM
burt Draconian Warlord Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Drakonia Casino cash: $8270755	The Divorce update! Maybe this is too personal, but I need to vent! So, being a horn dog and all, I convinced my soon to be ex to "Have one night of no inhibition, all out, major sex" to kiss our marriage good bye. It was to be a great time! The dirty bitch actually complained the entire time (you don't have to spend so much time on that spot....I have a lower gag reflex because I'm pregnant...you're smashing my boobs....I don't want to do that position, etc.)......and we mostly just did it missionary. She wasn't willing to do any other position. Never have I EVER had a worst time in bed. NEEVER!!! I figure that this is exactly the way I want to kiss our marriage good bye! Yesterday, I saw the attorney for the first time. It was better than I expected. I can't wait to be divorced. I just have to find the fundage!
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MTG#10 Mammoth penis Join Date: May 2006 Location: Springfield Casino cash: $7014386	Today is our 8 year wedding anniversary...
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