Would it bother you if your SO/spouse made more money than you?

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Originally Posted by DJ's left nut

but I also have to wonder how often that arrangement leads to an unhealthy (or perhaps failed) marriage. Which would certainly have a far more damaging impact on a child than would Day Care.

Day care is so expensive that its usually worth it in the short-term to have one stay-at-home parent. But we are only talking the first few years; once the kid is off to school there isn't a point to it. Although by then the wife has gotten so used to not working that she will do anything to not go back to work, from inflating the amount of daily work that is actually invovled with staying home, to "forgetting" to take her pill so she can squeeze out another one and have another 5-year layoff from her job. A couple kids later, and she is suddenly unqualified to go back to the workforce. This causes a huge fight, she listens to all her "take the money and run" divorced friends, uses her husbands money to get an expensive lawyer, she claims that her endentured servitude cost her the profitable career she had before, takes him to the cleaners, and she spends her days chasing the lawn-boy at her ex-husband's ex-house with his ex-money.